((As an outside opinion, does it look like I have a problem (with the lawyer) ?? ))
Yes

Maybe. Your contract with the attorney will specify what he can and can't be paid for and how he can attach funds. It's important that you read that to determine if he can attach any of the inheritance.
If I'm reading this correctly, you had an UTMA (Uniform Transfer to Minors Act) account set up by your parents for your daughter? You want to transfer them to the same type of account in your state.
If there isn't an inheritance issue involved, I don't see the need for the attorney. You have to be concerned with tax issues if there is an inheritance, and I can see the bank wanting the state rules if theirs are different, maybe, but other than that...I don't see the issue. If the funds were in the account PRIOR to the deaths...you should be able to show yourself as the guardian or custodian of the funds and move them as you wish.
I'd call the bank you're wanting to deal with and get to the bottom of what the issue is. IF it's not on their side, find out if it's an inheritance issues, and make the attorney explain it to you better than you seem to have now. I'm hoping you're just missing an important part of the puzzle

and not dealing with an attorney who is difficult.

Sometimes they forget to talk in english for all of us to understand
